It has been my joy to serve as your pastor for the past eleven years. As we both transition into new realities, it is my responsibility to let you know about the Presbytery’s “Separation Ethics.” Basically, friendships continue but pastoral responsibilities do not. The Presbytery’s policy includes the paragraphs that follow. I ask you to read this carefully and understand that it is my intention to follow this policy faithfully.
The life of every congregation is punctuated by the coming and going of pastors. For both the congregation and the pastor, it is important for these transitions to take place in as healthy a manner as possible.
Pastors and congregations form unique, personal bonds and relationships during their times of ministry together. When a pastoral relationship is ended, it is understandable that the pastor and former parishioners would like to stay in touch and continue the relationship they have enjoyed. However, doing so makes it more difficult for congregations to begin forming new bonds and relationships with their new pastor.
Therefore, the Presbytery of Winnebago rejects any pastoral activities which invade another minister’s call without a specific invitation from that minister, including returning to a former calling body for pastoral services. “After the dissolution of the pastoral relationship, former pastors and associate pastors shall not provide their pastoral services to members of their former congregations without the invitation of the moderator of session.” (G-2.0905)
The Presbytery opposes any fostering of informal relationships in congregations in which a former pastor has served, which, in the perceptions of the current pastor, session, or the Presbytery harm the ministry of the current pastor.
It is important that, with particular friends, it be made clear that the pastoral relationship will come to an end. This does not mean that friendships must come to an end. Friendships are priceless and are to be preserved, but there is a special responsibility on the part of the departing pastor to prevent friendships from becoming confused with the pastoral relationship.
The pastoral functions of counseling, calling, conducting weddings, funerals, or baptisms are not appropriate. Neither is the rendering of opinions or judgments about the ministry of the former church or its new pastor. In the current age of social media, all on-line interaction must be handled with great care. The departing pastor should exercise discipline in order to find ways to remove undue social media visibility.